Understanding Anger and Stress


When clients ask me about how they can manage Stress and Anger, they generally describe feelings of being ”Out of control,” “Not being able to think straight,” and “Seeing red,” these Fight or Flight responses can become really difficult to manage  if left unchecked. So my clients often feel a huge sense of relief when they start to make sense of what is happening to them, when they struggle to manage their anger outbursts. The Dan Siegel- Flipping Your Lid- Hand Model, is a great reference point.

https://youtu.be/qFTljLo1bK8 

It can take also take away some of the shame a client may feel when they have a Fight or Flight or Freeze response to a very uncomfortable emotional trigger.  

If you or anyone in your family is affected by Anger or Stress issues and would like to know more about how Psychotherapy, Counselling or Coaching would help, please get in touch.

Emma Appleby is the Clinical Director of Impact North West, providing:- Counselling, Psychotherapy and Coaching to Adults and Adolescents.

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